Friday, June 20, 2014

A Cautionary Note to My Daughter

"Dear Lolo,

Rejoice your virtue and innocence when you can - if you were an adult like us today, you would be down trodden to hear about all kinds of things happening around us. I have been trying to protect you from from the vices and prejudices as much as possible, but I know you won't be escaped as you grow up.

The world is becoming a chaotic place. Power, authority, wealth, money, name and fame are what everyone is after. How often I look at you and wish I could take you to a different world where you won't have to be a part of all of these dirty things in life!

This morning, I read in Kuensel that Bhutan is ranked 16/162 in the global ranking of Happiest Countries! Oh yes, we are fortunate in many many ways compared to 2/3rd of the world. When I watch the heart wrenching news in the Television from all over the world, from places inflicted by war and arms, of children and women being the hapless victims, of men being butchered by militants, of girls being raped and mutilated, I thank our fortune for being born in a country like Bhutan where these kinds of happenings are at the bare minimum. 

But Darling, time is changing and people are changing, even here in Bhutan.

Worse than wars and arms, our people are undergoing mental and attitude transformation which I find are more dangerous than physical changes. Already we have divided society based on regions (very often I hear westerns citing eastern and otherwise as well), our people are rifting apart in the name of political parties and the level of unhappiness is growing intensely.

Economic crisis is hitting us hard. I fear soon we might enter depression period and it will be more than painful if our children are victimized by the follies of their parents. Parents are we today and you children might end up paying for our mistakes. Lolo, forgive us then, forgive us now.

Your Mama wishes she can change the entire world for the good of all. At the least, I can worry for you and try keeping you from these vices. You know Lolo, when you grow up, you don't have to be rich, wealthy, beautiful, or powerful. Just be a good person. Like your Papa had said few years ago, 'I may die a poor man, I may die a rich man, I may die a young man, I may die an old man. But my conscience is clear and I will die a Happy Man.'

In prayers for your GOOD HUMAN BEING,



  1. I wish I had written this letter... very sweet and touching
    Many years from now, when Lolo reads this she will wonder how her young mother could have possibly predicted all of that.
    He father's words are priceless!

    1. Last night, Lolo and I were watching a Bhutanese movie on BBSC Chanel II when suddenly there was this scary scene of a very haunting face. I tried shielding Lolo's eyes from it by covering them with the blanket. Then, this thought struck me, "I can cover her eyes from such physical scenes, but can I really protect her from the other vices and evils?"

      Sigh! So much to worry for our children.