Thursday, October 31, 2013

Baby, Baby-sitting and Baby-sitter!

One of the hottest topics over lunch-time is 'baby-sitting'. 

When we planned to start a family, my Hubby and I were more worried about financial implication than anything else. But today, that seems to be the least of the worries - there are many other pressing concerns which are far more essential in raising children. 

Right now, the biggest concern or rather a problem with many is the issue of baby-sitting and getting a good baby-sitter, especially for those working mothers. Trust me, we don't feel good to have our parents baby sitting our children, but who otherwise will be better than them? If you look at the kind of care and love with which they tend to our children (the very way they must have tended us), we feel haplessly blessed that our parents are around us, for all times' sake! I am genuinely glad that my father and mother took onto themselves to bring up all their grandchildren (Lolo in the 4th position) without any dependence on baby sitters! Sadly, not everyone is blessed as we are.

A good family friend has been struggling to get a good baby sitter for months now. How often I wish I could help her out, like few times I offered her to reach her baby to my place, but we stay at the two edges of the town! So, it's literally half an hour drive one way to reach my place! And she is one of the many such cases, like the sweeper lady at my work place who does the cleaning job carrying her 10-month baby at the back, like those city sweepers along the expressway who work tirelessly with their babies! 

When I look at all these, my worries are minimal. I shouldn't be complaining of the sleepless nights (honest, Lolo isn't that cranky kind - except for the two feeds in the night, otherwise she lays down by 10 p.m. and up only around 7 a.m. Thank you Lolo!) or about the physical tiredness (without a helper at home, I amiably do all the chores from washing to feeding to bathing and the rest). 

Sometimes, I wonder what if I had a helper? First fear is the laziness that might creep deep within - I don't want that. And the trust level - how trustworthy are they? My other friend narrates horrifying stories of her baby sitter's behaviour, and that left me thanking of not having one to worry about. With your parents, you are saved of that aspect. 

By and by, I totally agree that baby sitting is a tough job. Perhaps that explains why many reason that they would rather work on the streets than baby sit at home! But being a mother, I have less to complain. Because the joy of watching your child grow is in-exchangeable. 

And we have been laughing a bit too loud at Lolo's new talent - she dances with her head "Dhug-chung dhug-chung!" That's the cutest!

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Motherhood Bliss

On a typical weekend, you will catch me wrestling with Lolo from dawn to dusk. Her energy level is alarming despite her weighty figure and she manages to keep the rest of us in shape. She is our huge entertainer at home - all teeth are falling in and out laughing at the little things she does for us.

This is 'motherhood bliss' and I love it. In fact, all of us are blessed in one way or the other. Like my parents who are enjoying parenthood for the 11th time, they are not tired as yet. They spare every single minute to hover around Lolo and attend to her. Both in 70s but the most active generation in the family.

My Hubby seems to be enjoying parenthood to the fullest with Lolo right now. He seems to have missed a major part of joy during Leksh's childhood, very unfortunate though. When I watch him with Lolo, I wonder if he remembers that this is his second, because he is so engrossed and taken away by the joy of being a father. I am happy for him.

Our elder daughter Leksh is ever the big sister to Lolo. They make a good pair, also by the similar features they inherited from their father, irrespective of who their mothers are! But Leksh is a daughter to me just as much as she respects me as her mother. I think what Lucy said makes perfect sense, "Alu, you have always been a parent, perhaps this time a parent to a baby." (KP and I claim we are parents to five kids - Two daughters, two nieces and one naughty nephew in Mr. R!)

I have always believed in the potential of we women that we can either break or make a man. Like we women can break or make a family. Like we women can break or make a life. In my case, I am a winner - because I made a man, a family and a life. Nothing makes me prouder than this achievement that my life is perfectly good. We are not rich, we are not wealthy, neither are we powerful. But we are seriously happy.

Motherhood has exposed a gentle part of me, and a bigger capability. The hundred things I do in a day as a working mother, daughter and wife tell me that. To that extend that we sit around a table and laugh at our worries. Because we are there for each other, if not anything else.

And this I thank Motherhood for all the joys in my family. Thank you Lolo for keeping us together.